Written by Rob Gin, Young Dads Ministry Worker
We seem to live in a world where things are given more attention than what they should be. Unfortunately, there are also things that are given unnecessary attention – sometimes toxic. As Father’s Day approaches, we want to give you the opposite kind of attention – something more life-giving, which is what God wants to give us.
You are valued, young dad.
We acknowledge each of your frustrations faced while navigating ‘the system.’ We have seen the pain and agony of being pigeon-holed as a ‘bad father,’ when the reality is far from this. But in spite of all of the negative stigmas placed on you, we pray for God to grant you the strength to endure and stay focused on what is most truthful.
We see potential in you, young dad.
We acknowledge your challenges of being in a relationship. We realize you never had many healthy adult role models in this regard, so you never knew any better. But we observe the desire and efforts you make in building safety and trust between you and your partner – even if it is within co-parenting. We know that deep down you do this because you also want to leave a lasting and positive legacy to your children. In spite of the world not seeing this, we see and acknowledge your striving toward this.
You are an encouragement to us, young dad.
We know being a young father is not easy, amongst working long hours at a job that sometimes is not enough to provide for your family. We realize and appreciate the sacrifices you make sometimes for your children to get extra, but you miss out on your own needs. We can see the long hours and days put a toll on your focus, and you sometimes rather have (or wish you had) quiet ‘me’ time, but your children don’t seem to understand this. We know you want what’s best for your children, but because of tiredness things like discipline will take on a negative look you didn’t want (and this much the same in your pursuit for a healthy relationship with your partner). We know you mean well, so we encourage you to not stay discouraged, not grow weary, and not lose hope – but keep moving forward making the most of the growing pains to learn.
Amongst all these mentioned, we understand there are many more unnoticed, unappreciated, and misunderstood things that burden you daily. Many days these cause you to feel stuck, unmotivated, and confused.
We acknowledge your pain and realize the efforts you make – even when we ourselves don’t. Forgive us for trying to fix or change you, when what you need is a listening ear, being asked questions at the right time, being understood.
Most of all, we need to patiently wait (with you) for God to unveil His handiwork. So much like you, we are reminded. We are reminded of how God has been present in your life. We are amazed at your transformation, and the fruits shown, big and small.
So on this Father’s Day, we share with you the consistent reminder of the deep love God has for you, and the hope he has for the flourishing of your life and children.
You are loved and deeply honored, young dad!